Una Cerveza, Por Favor

I recently went on holiday to Mexico. Is this a blog about that? No. Well, yes. Well, no. Not really. But, kind of. Put it this way; if you're expecting a "Rough Guide To Mexico" type blog, you're in the wrong place. Try someone who embraces world travel and is happy to share their insights. If you're after me talking about something random, then read on.

Recent understanding is that, when travelling from England to Mexico, you go by aeroplane. The best place to get on an aeroplane is an airport. So it was, on Thursday 13th June, I found myself, with my wife, at Manchester Airport. Whilst doing the usual things you do at an airport (the boring official things like finding your check-in desk and handing over your bag, whilst panicking that you have put too much stuff in it and will be charged; rather than having a sausage muffin that costs the price of a family car) we saw a family excitedly running around; presumably also going on holiday. The reason this family caught our attention was that they had 2 children. Now, I know you are now thinking why 2 children would catch our attention. Lots of families have 2 children. What was attention catching was that one of the children had 2 red arms. No, not sunburn. Plaster casts. Yes, he had broken both of his arms. He was in plaster up to the elbow on both, so could bend his arms. He wasn't full on zombie or aeroplane impression, but still, how annoying. It was actually Sharon that spotted him and she pointed him out. We awwed and I said I hoped they weren't going to Florida. Imagine going to Orlando and not being able to go on any of the rides or water slides because of a last minute injury. Gutting! Poor guy. The moment quickly passed and we thought little more about it. We instead busied ourselves with the financial planning involved in buying a sausage butty and a cup of tea at an airport.

Later, we got on an AEROPLANE! This was to be our home for the next 10 hours. Whilst on there, we saw a boy with 2 broken arms. Don't worry, we weren't on some sort of hospital plane from an airport for accident prone children; it was the same lad. Stands to reason that he would be on our flight. We'd originally seen him around the area we'd checked in. Poor guy. Going on a beach holiday, where the main things to do for a child will be play in the sea or in a pool, but with 2 broken arms. Again we awwed and then thought no more about it. We busied ourselves with squinting to watch poor quality A Good Day To Die Hard and Rise Of The Guardians. We tried to watch the poor quality The Last Stand, but the quality was so poor that it was impossible to actually see or hear the film, so we gave up.

Once we landed and progressed through the usual arriving at an airport stuff, the next leg of our journey involved sitting on a coach for an hour and a half whilst people were dropped off at hotels. "Oh look. There's the broken arm kid again. Poor guy." We sat back and waited for our hotel. We got there and checked in. Whilst checking in, "Is this kid following us? He's staying at our hotel too. Poor guy. This place is right on the beach and has 3 swimming pools and a kid's paddling pool. All useless to him. He'll have to sit and watch all the other kids having fun."

Again we tried to think no more about it and proceeded in trying to stay awake until at least 10pm (which would be 4am for us, after a 5am start) to try and get a hold on the jet-lag from the off. We walked on the beach; had a beer and explored the resort.

A couple of days later we were lazing by the pool watching a group of people in their 20s throw a ball about and saw the broken-arms kid family roll up. "Awwww. A day of watching his brother play in the pool. Poor guy". His brother threw himself in and started swimming about with a snorkel and mask. Poor guy. 

THEN.... something unexpected happened. Broken-arms kid's mum pulled some strange blue things out of her bag. They looked like... could then be?... YES. They were GIANT RUBBER GLOVES! They looked like they were designed entirely for this purpose. His mum wrestled them on over his plasters; whilst he impatiently wriggled and watched his brother already in the pool. When she had finally got them on him, he LAUNCHED himself into the pool. I swear it happened in slow-motion, but that may just be the romantic in me. As he jumped in, me and Sharon CHEERED!...... Then embarrassedly looked away when his family looked round. It was a beautiful moment watching him snorkel round happily. Especially when the people throwing the ball decided it would be funny to try and "get the kid with the broken arms" and 'accidentally' bounced it off his head a couple of times whilst he snorkeled. Moving.

EDIT: Here is the website for the big rubber glove thingys http://www.protectacast.com/

My Christopher Eccleston Story

Let's begin this blog by saying that I seem to struggle typing Eccleston. If, in the process of this blog, I spell it Ecclseton, Eccleton, Ecclestone or any other variations and I don't notice to correct it, please feel free to not tell me. I do know how to spell it. I just type it wrong more often than not.

The year was 2007. The month was April. The location was The Bridgewater Hall in Manchester. Our hero was me. I was 27 years old. 

I quite like going to music gigs. I used to average at least one a month. I mostly went to them with my mate Rick. I had just started seeing Sharon and was starting to go to gigs with her too. Occasionally, if no one else fancied the gig, I would go on my own. I like my own company and have no problem going to see something I want to see on my own. I have seen Paul McCartney, U2 and Eric Clapton on my own. They were all awesome. In April 2007 Sharon was in stupid, rubbish Australia. Van Morrison was playing The Bridgewater Hall in Manchester and I bought a ticket for myself. It turned out my Mum and Bill (her boyfriend) also had tickets for that gig. As it was seated I would not be with them, but I could have a drink with them before and after. Not quite such a lonesome gig after all.

I met my Mum and Bill in the bar of The Bridgewater Hall and had a beer. Then we went to find our seats. I was in the middle of the row, in the middle of the stalls. A good view; I was happy. There were 2 empty seats to my right. The lights went down and there were still 2 empty seats to my right. A couple of minutes in and someone excused himself down the row to get to one of those empty seats. I stood and let him pass. He sat down next to me and I sat down again. My brain told me something I hadn't realised, "You know him. Look at him again." I did; It was Christopher Eccleston. "Oh. That cool actor who was great in Shallow Grave; 28 Days Later and has just been Doctor Who is sat next to me." I texted my Mum and then carried on watching Van Morrison. He was, after all, the person we were all here to see. The gig finished and Van was very good. I had left Christopher Eccleston alone. He was at a gig. Plus he's just a bloke who happens to be famous; that's still just a bloke. I noticed him hold his phone up when a song came on, but apart from that thought no more about him. As the gig finished I figured I should say something. I am a fan. But I don't want to be one of those excitable fan people. As I said, he's just a bloke. So I made no mention as to who he was and asked him if he enjoyed the gig. He said he did and that Van Morrison has mellowed a lot over the years. We exchanged a couple more thoughts on the gig and then went about our day. I spotted my Mum making her way over as we shuffled out. She got to me and said, "WHERE IS HE?!" I sheepishly pointed to the man still right in front of me. My Mum tapped him on the shoulder and said, "I want to shake your hand. You were Doctor Who. My son is a fan of yours". I was a 27 year-old MAN. I had been a COOL 27 year-old MAN! In 5 seconds my mother stripped away all those years and I said, "MUUUUMM! I'd played it cool and not mentioned Doctor Who or anything! (to him) I'm very sorry." He said, "It's ok; I have a Mum too. Pleased to meet you both." He shook both our hands and then was gone into the TARDIS... errr, night.

My Afternoon Rant

What a complete fucking waste of an afternoon off. All I wanted to do was walk to the pub and have a couple of pints on my own before my wife got home. Easy, you may think.  

I finished work at 1230. All I needed to do was pay a bill for my Nan at the Post Office and then I was free to go to the pub. I drove from work, in Stockport, to Tottington, where my Nan lives. Traffic wasn't great and I got there about 1330. You can't park next to the Post Office, there are double-yellow lines, so  I parked round the corner. About 5 minutes walk away. As it was pissing it down, I grabbed my brolly and walked to the Post Office. There was a woman stood outside the door, so I said "excuse me" and tried to walk past to open the door. "Oh no, they shut at dinner", she said. I was not impressed, but asked when they opened again. It was 1330, can't be that long to wait. Especially as there is a woman already stood outside. Turns out they shut for dinner between 1300 and 1400. Why the fuck was she stood there then?! Was she really going to fucking stand there for another half an hour?! Or was she the woman who worked in the Post Office just being an awkward dick?! I don't know, but I wasn't hanging around to find out. And another thing, who shuts a shop for dinner these days? It's 2012! Not 1832! And AN HOUR?! A whole fucking hour?! I don't even take close to an hour for my dinner and I do a real job that doesn't involve sitting behind a counter handing pieces of paper over for other pieces of paper. I trudged back to my car, in the pissing rain, and drove home. 

I had some soup for my dinner. It was very nice. It was Heinz Cream of Tomato soup. It was the highlight of my fucking day. I got changed and decided to venture out again. I drove back to the Post Office in Tottington, again, near my Nan's. I parked around the corner, again, and walked with my brolly, again, in the pissing fucking rain, again, to the Post Office, again. This time it was open. Thank the fucking Baby Jesus! It was a different lady behind the counter, to the one who had been stood outside. I can't fault the service one bit. She was very nice and very helpful. I paid the bill and walked back to my car, in the pissing rain, again. I drove to my Nan's and gave her the pieces of paper. We had a chat for a bit about stuff and then I set off home to achieve my amazingly easy goal of having a walk to the pub for a couple of pints before my wife got home from work.

I got home and parked my car and was about to set off walking to the pub. I looked out of the window. Still fucking pissing it down. The pub is about 30 mins walk away. I would be fucking drenched by the time I reached the pub. Fine. I would get the bus. They are every 10 minutes on the main road. I'd be in the pub in 15 minutes, tops. I put on a hat and waked the 5 mins, in the pissing rain, to the bus stop. Fortunately the bus stop has a shelter, so I didn't get any wetter. There was an elderly lady stood at the bus stop. She seemed very nice and friendly and kept speaking to me. I didn't encourage conversation, but was polite and spoke back when she spoke to me. When she spoke to herself, or thin fucking air, I kept quiet. I think the medical term would be "a little fucking odd". But as I say, she was friendly enough, and harmless. The bus was due in a couple of minutes and I would just sit elsewhere on the bus from her and all would be well. I would also ignore the fact she had just put her brolly up whilst stood under a bus shelter.

30 minutes passed.

No bus.

30. Fucking. Minutes.

No. Fucking. Bus.

Plenty of the bastards going the other way. But none going my way. It then occurred to me it was chucking out time at the schools and there is a high school at the top of the road. The bus would be full of the little fuckers and that was obviously the reason there were no buses. All the buses that were arriving were delayed by dozens of spotty youths, playing shite music through their phones, trying to get on. And also monumentally succeeding in ruining my fucking afternoon!

After a while I looked at my watch. 4 o'clock. For fucks sake! 4 o-fucking-clock. Sharon finishes at half past.  And there's still no bastard bus! The whole thing is a fucking shambles! There's no point making the fucking trip to the pub now. I'll only have to turn round and come home again straight away. What cock up! What a fucking bastard cunting cock up!!!

I grumpily walked back home and made a cup of tea. Then blasted this ranty blog into my computer. I hope you find it entertaining. Or not. Couldn't give a fuck. 

At least my Nan will still have gas and electric next week.

Opinions... and everything else

Opinions are funny things. Everyone has them and some people say they are interested in your's. What they usually mean is they want you to agree with their's. I'm no different. I would prefer it if you agreed with my opinion. Although I am different in the fact I probably don't care about your's. Not in a bad way. I just don't let other people's views affect my life. I love The Beatles and I hate cats. There are people out there that love cats and hate The Beatles. Does that change my view? Not in the slightest. I wonder why me having differing opinions on things bothers others then?

Maybe it's because I'm not (or wasn't) afraid to let people know what they are and because I offer it more than just when I am asked. Not in any want to be offensive, just because that's what I think. Why lie about how you feel about something? It only makes life hard work if you lie. You have to then keep track of the lies, in case it comes up again. Far more simple to say, "No, I don't like your kitten. I would happily see all domestic cats extinct."

I freely admit that sometimes I say things that are on my mind to ruffle a few feathers (like that extinct cats comment), but never to upset someone. I mostly say things because it's what I think, and if someone else thinks something different, then that's fine by me. It would appear that I'm in the minority here though. The lack of being popular for things I say would suggest this. I don't ask people to agree, or even comment, but people do sometimes take it personally. Sometimes with good reason because I've said it directly to someone, or because of bad judgement on when/how I said something. 

The problem with that bad judgement is I don't really see it coming. As I'm getting older I care less and less about what other people think of me/things I say. And so am more likely to not think before I speak/type. Turns out this is a big problem of late. Last year I got married. My wife isn't opinionated like me. She is lovely and social and knows when to say, "Your baby is really cute", as opposed to, "It's ok, most babies are ugly at first". The problem is this: Turns out us being a wedded team now means that anything we do reflects on the other. So my opinion making people not like and shun me, means they shun her too by proxy. It's worked quite well for me, as I don't really like going to things. For someone nice, and who isn't broken in the head and likes going to things and seeing people, like her, this is a big issue. An issue that means I have to try and keep my mouth shut and my opinions to myself. For her. And I'm really trying, because I love her and her opinion does matter lots and lots to me. And seeing her upset or shunned because of me, makes me not like myself.

The problem we have, and I'm going to be completely honest about my possibly broken brain in public for the first time ever here, is that life and people and places basically TERRIFY me.

I struggle with staring into a big black abyss and the urge to jump into that abyss. An abyss that I don't know the name of, but, from what other people say, I would label "depression".  Although I don't actually know what that is or what this thing in my head is, but it's as good a word as any. Sometimes seemingly nothing can have me teetering on the edge. The edge, as I call it, is the bit where something dark starts to descend on my mood. Something that makes me start to not want to talk to anybody or do anything, but there still *feels* like there is a choice. A choice about whether I snap myself out of it and pretend I'm ok, until the pretence takes over and I am ok, or I jump into the abyss and wallow in the darkness. I'm sure most people feel like that on occasion. The problem with my seemingly broken brain is that I am more predisposed to take the decision to jump. It's almost welcoming. It's certainly easier than fighting it.

Life in the abyss is very difficult to explain. The best I can come up with is that it is like having levels of conciousness...or layers of personality... or something.  It's very difficult to explain. There is a me on the surface and a me on the inside. Sometimes they are one and the same and sometimes they are completely at odds with each other. For example, I can be in work and, as far as everyone is concerned, functioning perfectly normally. I'm talking, joking, and seem fine. On the inside I am in turmoil and angry and want to disappear. It can also work the other way. I can be obviously in a bad mood. Doing nothing, not really responding to people when they speak to me and when I do it can be not nice. Inside I am shouting, "What the fuck are you doing?! Just be ok. Don't say that. Be nice. Or at least tell them what's wrong!". This is over simplifying it somewhat and doesn't cover all cases, but it's a start. This can go on for hours/days and then for no reason at all I can be back, or I can choose to be back (or something. It's very difficult to explain) and I'm ok. Sometimes it can be a more arduous return. I can be trying to claw my way back and the inner me will force through and make an effort. It will be a very small effort from an outside perspective, but it will *feel* like a HUGE effort. It can just be a little thing like, for example, asking my wife how her day was. Obviously to her this wasn't a huge effort on my part and so she is unlikely to see the importance.  If she is watching TV or paying attention to something else, because I haven't spoken in a while, and misses it and doesn't respond, or recognise the huge effort (how can she?!) I can take it quite hard. Effort made. Effort rejected. Back into the abyss.

This obviously has implications on me socially. Part of it is that I need a comfort zone or I start to see that edge approaching. A comfort zone doesn't have to be a physical place that is familiar, it can be a situation or a person that is familiar. Just something to cling on to. My wife is certainly a big comfort zone for me. I can comfortably go pretty much anywhere, as long as she's there and I don't have to socially interact with other people. That is a big source of discomfort for me. You put other people into the mix, even my closest friends, and I am out of my comfort zone. It's almost like I forget how I'm supposed to act around people at first. I get myself all worked up and feel trapped when I realise a plan has been made and I have to be somewhere and do something. I start stressing every time I think about it. If I then also have to eat with people, who aren't my wife, you can notch that stress up a level. When it actually comes to doing it, it builds to a crescendo as we're on the way to wherever it is we're going. Inside I'm feeling more and more trapped into this thing I have to do and I just want to run away. I can't do that though. That would let people in on the fact that I'm a bit of a freak who is scared of going drinking a cup of tea at someone's house. And I don't like being scared, or having people know it (turns out I do care what people think of me), so I project it more as anger. Being an angry, grumpy social outcast is kind of cool. Whereas being a slightly broken brained, scared man is a bit pathetic. I then use that anger to complain about having to go to the place because it's shit... or it's a stupid idea... or nobody there will like me anyway because of that thing I said... or it's pointless and the person should know better then even arranging it. The point is, in that state, I convince myself that is my opinion to protect myself from the truth. The truth is I am frightened and trying not to freak out. So I allow myself to go along with the fact that, in my opinion, your party is a rubbish idea and then I feel a bit better. Because that's your issue, not mine. And then, as we've covered, if I have an opinion, I voice it.

It is also getting worse as I get older, because I'm getting a better and better comfort zone. Most of my life I have lived in someone else's house (parents; renting with, or rooms from, friends) and been single. You tend to be thrust into social interaction and have no say about people being there when you live with them and they own the house. You also have no one to cling to, so although the lows are lower, you have no choice but to sail alone. I now have a wife and we have a house together. A fort of comfort, with a guard at the door. I don't have to leave it and I don't have to let anyone in. Apart from my wife, but as I've already said she has somehow cut through all this mental shite and has become the one person I can truly relax with all the time.  So now I'm not living outside my comfort zone, I live in it and have to be forced out of it by my wife having a very justified say in how we spend our time. Rather difficult when I react by having a hissy-fit style rant when confronted with this.

I even feel this way about things I REALLY WANT to do. I am usually quite nervous about going meeting my mates in the pub. I don't know why. I love my mates... and the pub. I usually find I settle down after the first pint and relax into it. I think my mates just accept that I often start a night quiet and probably don't even question why. A beer is another comfort zone for me. I do find that a beer or two settles the head demons and I relax into a situation. That makes me sound like an alcoholic. I also drink beers because I really like drinking beers.

I'm not trying to use this as an excuse for anything I say or do. I'm still a human being with control over my actions and I am 100% accountable for them. Sometimes, like anyone, I don't like something and am a twat about it, but sometimes I'm lashing out because I'm scared.

I keep saying "frightened", "scared" and "trapped" and I don't even know if they are the right words. I don't know exactly what the right words are, but they seem to touch on it. The biggest problem with "depression" is it's almost impossible to decisively put into words. It's like trying to explain  a concept. You can possibly give an impression of it, but you will never actually nail it down. I think of it as trying to explain being tired to an alien who doesn't need sleep. If you don't experience it, you can't know. And even if you do experience it, the chances that it's the same experience that someone else has with it are very remote.

I don't have a way to end this blog. There is no resolution that I am ok with it now, or I have a plan to deal with it. I am *trying* to go to more things at the moment, but it probably won't last and I'll still try to get out of everything I feel I reasonably can. The only resolution is what I have always done: Deal with each situation as it occurs and try not to put too much pressure on my wife. While I'm doing that please try and understand that while I may mean what I say, I may not mean, mean it. Good luck. We're all going to need it.

Doctor Who? What? Where?

I'm just going to come right out and say it.

The ending for Rory and Amy in the Angels Take Manhattan was shit!

Was I the only person to think, "Try harder to get round this, Doctor"?

I think the Weeping Angels are pretty great creations of Stephen Mofat, but they should have been left where they belong. In greatness. In Blink. What made them great was how they "killed" you. Zap you back in time to live out your life there. Not really much of a threat to someone who has a time machine, or knows someone who does. Only a threat to average, every day people. Like Sally Sparrow.  That was what made Blink great (besides the cool one sided Doctor conversation on the DVD extras). It was that it was told from the perspective of real people, who didn't have a TARDIS or a Doctor to hand to fix everything. Seeing the Angels since has meant that Stephen has tried to come up something different for them.  Changing people to stone and actually killing people. Didn't really work for me.  

The Angels Take Manhattan was promising and mostly good because it took the Angels back to their roots and had them sending people back in time.  What I struggled with was the TARDIS suddenly not being able to get to New York in 1938, because of all the temporal shite going down. Ok, whatever, something to overcome in the episode.  But to then use this as the reason that Rory and Amy are "stuck" at the end? Errrr, no.  So, the Doctor can't go back to New York in 1938 to go and get them. What about 1939? Or 1940? Surely a year or 2 is ok.  Are we saying the TARDIS can no longer travel back in time in New York?  Ok, go back to Boston in 1938 and hire a car.  Hell, go back to a different planet and borrow a spaceship!

The point is that it wasn't a very air tight version of "stuck". It stung more of "can't be bothered" or "being a bit stupid".

Rose being in a different dimension with a impenetrable barrier. Now that's stuck! Or Donna not being able to get back to being herself because she'll die.  That's stuck! Even Martha just not wanting to travel with the Doctor anymore was a better way of leaving. 

"Shush now. We have the internets again!"

That's what I just sympathetically said to my wife, as she had a coughing fit and I was trying to watch the Avengers gag reel, now we had working broadband again at home.

It all started a few weeks ago. Actually, let's go back a bit further. You could say, it started a few months ago. I moved the Wii through to the extension and it couldn't reach the wireless any more. I bought a wireless repeater. It appeared to connect to the wireless. Devices connected to it. The devices didn't connect through it to the internet. I did what most people would do in those circumstances... I pissed about with it for about 5 minutes and gave up and switched it off and didn't have internet access in the extension.

Then other things started displaying similar symptoms. Things would appear to connect to the wireless, but they wouldn't get the internet connection. Or, most frustratingly, they would see the wireless but couldn't connect to it. Despite all the passkeys being right and the router appearing to be doling out internet. A reboot of the router would solve the issue and I didn't make a big deal of it.

Then it started happening more and more. Then all the time. Then a reboot wouldn't solve it. Then I couldn't connect to it via an ethernet cable. Then it wouldn't even pretend it was connecting to the internet, or even trying.

This was serious now. I hadn't just lost the internet in a room, I'd lost it in my entire house. I've had good fortune with internet connections. It's never really been down. I have a stonking fast connection at work. I'm used to it just being there. I'm very first world. Turn on a tap, water comes out. Turn on a switch, a light turns on. Turn on a network enabled device, there is internet on it. Only now there wasn't. Except if I used 3G. So it wasn't like I was in the dark ages... more the late 19th Century.

I work in IT. I know how to do this shit. I did ALL the tests. Different cables/micro filters/configs/etc. I knew pretty much from the off that it had to be the router though. The wireless strangeness, for one. The LED lights that LIED, for another. And lies make The Baby Jesus cry. It was obviously an evil router and it needed CASTING TO THE FLAMES.... or well, you know, replacing with a new one.

I put on my best patient head and RANG SKY CUSTOMER SERVICES!

I started from the stand point of being an IT professional and listed all the things I had tried and said I was pretty sure it was my router. The girl on the other end of the phone still asked me to try a couple of things. I did them (again), as I too support people and sometimes you have to humour the person who is helping you, just in case you've made a stupid mistake. After 20 minutes she confirmed that it was a technical issue that needed escalating. I asked to be escalated. She said someone would be in touch within 72 hours. Sigh.

Two days later I got a text from Sky telling me to ring them when I was at home. I was at work. And had plans that night. I left it and went to the pub. The next day I got a more pushy text telling me to ring them when I was at home. That's a first for me. Customer services hassling me to get in touch to help fix an issue.

I got home from work and rang the number given. I got a very condescending bloke who interrupted me telling him my thoughts on the problem to tell me he would be the judge of the issue and started ordering me to try plugging various things in. Fortunately I was on the landline and around then accidentally pulled on the wrong wire and disconnected the phone. Whoops! I had to ring back and got a much more people-savy woman. I explained what I had done and I said it was the router and could they send a new one. She said she understood, but still needed to take some steps to test the line and things. Again, I jumped through a few hoops to satisfy the person trying to help me. I did point out that all the line tests in the world wouldn't fix the dodge wireless on the router. She agreed, but said she was technical help for the connection and would like to make sure that wasn't also at fault. Made sense. She helpfully rang me back on my mobile so I could unplug things and not have to worry about plugging/unplugging phones, or having landline phones interfering with things.

After an hour; 3 phone calls; me finding out that only 1 of the 3 phone sockets in my house is actually connected to anything resembling a phone line; she finally came to a conclusion... 

"I think your router is broke........... that was the first thing you said to me wasn't it?"

It was.

She then said it would be £35, plus £2 postage, for a new one. I swore. I said if she couldn't provide the equipment for a service I was paying them for I would find someone else. I'm sure Virgin would give me what I needed. I then remembered I'd just signed up for a year contract for SkyHD. Bollocks! So I could only take my broadband and phone. It was Friday and I had been on the phone on and off for an hour. I don't like being on the phone. I'd had enough. £37 didn't seem an insurmountable sum to end this call and have some tea and a beer. But then something else occurred to me...

"What if it turns out I'm wrong and it's not the router. I'll have spent £37 on something that didn't solve the issue?"

She said in that case they would refund the money and I could return the router. I think she sensed my will weakening, as she then offered to wave the £2 postage too.

I caved and got my wallet out.

I quite liked the fact that I didn't need to read all the numbers from my card out loud. I just needed to enter them on my phone keypad and it went into their system. First time I've done that.

Today a router arrived. Well actually, they tried to deliver it while I was at work and Sharon (bless her) went to pick it up from the Post Office depot after work. I got home and plugged it all in. Within minutes we had working broadband again. And bonus, the new router is an N, so has a greater range and reaches the Wii in the extension.

Told you it was the router.

Fucking Phones!

I HATE having a mobile phone. Fucking hate it! I hate it so much that I have three of the fuckers! Fucking THREE phones!!! So obviously, I LOVE having a mobile phone too. 

There are three things to address here:

1. Why do I have three mobile phones?

2. Why do I LOVE having a mobile phone?

3. Why do I HATE having a mobile phone?

Might as well break those three things down into headings.  Here goes:

1. Why do I have three mobile phones?

I have three mobile phones for the usual reason that people have more than one mobile phone. Firstly, I have my nice shiny personal iPhone 4. It is my main phone. It is white and pretty and shiny. It is my connection to my life. Secondly, I have my company HTC Wildfire S. I need to be contacted on the go, or out of office hours, for work and I am loathed to give out my personal number, so I have a company mobile. I also support the company mobile phones, so it is worth having one of the phones that people use so I am familiar with it. Thirdly, I have my old iPhone 3GS with a pay-as-you-go SIM card in it. I carry this with me when I go for a run or go out on my bike. Nice to be able to ring someone if I fall off and snap my leg. Also nice that it's not my shiny iPhone 4, in case falling off causes me to snap my phone. It's good too that only Sharon has the number, so I am out of touch with the world at large when out for a bit of exercise.

2. Why do I LOVE having a mobile phone?

I love having a mobile phone because we live in the information age and a phone is more than just a phone these days. It is your connection to that information. I can check emails; tweet; facebook; surf the internets and more, all from a convenient device which sits rather easily IN MY POCKET! If I'm a bit bored I can have a conversation with someone on Twitter without any effort. It is a marvel that we have all gotten used to very quickly.

3. Why do I HATE having a mobile phone?

The first part of this is not hate, it's a mild irk. It is the fact that I LOVE having this connection to the world so much. I now spend a lot of time checking this device to see what people I know, and don't know, are up to. I used to read a lot. Approximately a book a week. I now spend a large portion of the time I used to spend reading, looking at my phone. I probably average more like a book a month now. As I said, it is only a mild irk though, because if I HATED that so much, I would just put my phone down and pick up a book.

The real reason for my HATRED is the being reachable ALL THE FUCKING TIME for someone to talk to you! The thing I HATE about a mobile phone is the phone part. I am not a talking person. I don't do small talk and I CAN'T FUCKING STAND talking on the telephone. Most phone conversations I have are out of absolute necessity and last less than a minute. Just long enough to get across whatever information is needed. If I can do it by text instead, I will. But I will not get drawn into a text conversation either. It's almost as bad. That beep. That intrusion into your life. I'm eating my tea/watching Star Trek/staring into space, go away! Sharon's phone beeps about once a minute with a text and I don't know how she doesn't launch her phone across the room? Come to that, I don't know how I don't either? If someone texts me more than twice in a short space of time I start saying "OH FOR FUCKS SAKE!" every time it beeps. No matter how much I love the person on the other end.

If a phone rings then, oh Jesus Christ, what a nightmare. If my work phone rings, I answer it and it's not usually so bad. It's part of my job and the person on the other end has an IT problem they need fixing and it's a usually a very quick, functional phone call. Light on the small talk, usually none.

If the landline rings at home and I am in the house alone I begrudgingly answer it. Sometimes I don't. Sometimes I let the machine get it and see what the person says. I get it because I don't know who is ringing. It may be my Mum/Dad/Nan/Sharon's Mum/Dad and it may be important. If Sharon is in, I say, "It's for you" and let her get it. It quite often is for me though and as it's the landline it's usually one of three people. My Mum; my Dad or my Nan. They usually have an IT problem they want me to look at and, as with work, it's usually a quick call because it's functional. There will be a bit of catching up, but my family aren't really phone people either, so it's minimal. If it's someone trying to sell me something they get told to "Fuck off and don't call again" in no uncertain terms.

If my mobile rings... I look at it as if the person on the other end has decided to take a SHIT in my MOUTH, rather than nicely talk to me. I HATE my mobile phone ringing. If it's a blocked number, then great. IGNORE! If it's someone I know though, I have an internal struggle with what to do. Why are they ringing? Why don't they just text or email me? This is the 21st Century after-all. Should I just ignore it? I don't. I love my friends, despite not really wanting to talk to them on the phone, so I answer it. If the person on the other end has an IT problem and they quickly want some advice, then it's not so bad. We have a quick functional phone call on our hands. BUT... If they say THOSE words. Those words I dread to hear more than any other on the phone. Those words that make me just want to die. "Hi. I just called for a chat." OH. GOD. NO. I hate "chatting". I don't do small talk. And I REALLY don't do small talk on the phone, where you can't read people as well. Without their face to go off it can be hard work. You know that about me. Why are you ringing me? How do people do that? Sit and talk on the phone for AGES. Some people talk for over an hour. How? If I see the timer on my phone has clocked more than about 4 minutes I think, "Jesus, that was a long phone call". Work, is different. Sometimes I have to spend half an hour talking someone through something. It's just the way it goes. But it's not chatting, so it's not so bad. Anyway, back to my mobile ringing. If you don't answer the call because you suspect it's a "chat", or you just missed the call, then they leave a voicemail saying, "Hi. Just call me back when you get a chance". Then you have to MAKE a phonecall for a chat. You can't ignore it because it's your friend and you love them. And they will KNOW you have ignored their call. That's why I HATE mobile phones. You can't get away. Even if you try, it's only a delay. They will always know. And you will always have to have that phone call.

So, this is the thing. I've made a decision. It's my life and I can do what I like with it. If something makes me unhappy and feel trapped then... I DON'T HAVE TO DO IT! I can take what I like from the devices I have and leave the bits I don't like. The decision is this. Line in the sand. I don't answer the phone any more. If you ring me, don't expect me to pick it up. If you leave me a voice mail, don't expect me to return the call. We can text/email the required info or if you need to tell me something, leave the voicemail. I'll listen to it... If it's for a chat, send me an email and I'll get back to you in my own time, or (I'm not totally dead inside) let's meet for a pint or something and chat face to face. I love you, it's not that I don't want to talk to you, it's your chosen method of communication with me I don't I like. I know this is my issue, but tough, you know what you signed up for when befriending me. I'm a bit of a moody twat and I've never hidden that.

There are obvious exceptions to this rule. They are: Work. I'm not about to stop answering the phone at work (as much as I would like to), I would get in trouble and may ultimately lose my job. It's just part of the role and I can handle that; Sharon. She is my wife. Get out of jail free card. I answer the phone to her. Always; My parents and my Nan. Same as wife.

Everyone else. Sorry. Nothing personal. It's just not for me. So if you know me and want to communicate with me, send me a text/email/tweet/facebook and I'll get back to you. Or we can have a pint.